| I hate it. Especially when the custodial parent demands the child support from the other parent like it's either money or the children's death. My parents are divorced, and I just hate it. I don't live with my mother, who is the custodial parent because she's just impossible to live with. My father has to pay half of the child support now that I don't live with her, for my little brother. Mother tells me that if I choose to come back and live with her, because she is just going through another divorce with my stepfather, my father has to pay full child suport "until I'm 21" ... what kind of bullshit is that? She mooches from my dad's hard-earned money, and you knwo what? She doesn't use it to OUR benefit, but for hers. Okay, buying food is one benefit for us. But what about the clothes on our backs? She'll spend it on her SON'S clothes, food, and church offerings. Where's my benefit? Nowhere. It's all about the money. So I say FUCK divorce ... if you marry and you don't get along with your spouse, you shouldn't have married to begin with. And if you involve your children, guess who suffers? Not you, but your children. They grow up with a missing parent and the gossip about them never ever sleeps. "Oh, your father was like this, and he was like that." "Your mother was always such a bitch, blah blah blah". The children hear two sides of the same story, and who do they believe? If it were me, I'd believe the parent I trust the most, in this case, my father. My mother is a gossiper, and she never keeps her mouth shut about anything FOR anything. The children are stuck in the middle, with no opinion to express, other than "Mommy and Daddy fight a lot. Mommy says this about Daddy, while Daddy says that about Mommy" ... What parent wants to hear that from their child's teacher/counselor? If I were the parent, I wouldn't like it, and I would talk with my child about it, vowing never to gossip again. Divorced couples with children have to consider the children. I remember my dad told me what the family court judge told him and my mom when they were filing a divorce ... I was about 11 or 12 (I am now 18): "The children are more important here." But that was in terms of the child support. If I were the judge, I wouldn't say it in terms of money, I would say it in terms of psychology. You think I grew up a happy child? Hell no. My mother never considered me. She wanted me to get a job at the age of 14 when I could barely get a paying job with that blue card that allowed me to work. My father was the only one who gave me a childhood, but because of the divorce, I had a crappy adolesence. I wasn't allowed to date at the age of 15 because of my mom. I would say to myself, "No fucking wonder Dad couldn' get along with her." Because of my mother, and her personality, I told myself I was never gonna get married. Of course, someone changed my mind <3 ... but that's not the case. The point is that divorce has a great impact on those who are involved, mainly the children. Divorced couples with children should grow some feelings and think of their children and NOT place any more pressure on them than they can bear. This is just my opinion of divorce. I speak from my experience as a child who suffered because of divorce. Feel free to oppose.
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